Last night I watched Bicententennial Man with the unforgettable Robin Williams.It's been and still is one of my favorite movies of all time.Robin Williams' performance is dazzling to say the least. He possessed so much talent, so much light in his heart....a gift which he freely shared with the world. He will be sorely missed.Thank God we still have his movies to remind us what talent looks and feels like.
Among the many nuggets of wisdom to be gained from this fantastic movie, I singled out only one.It spoke to me on a core level, to my very soul.Andrew and Portia are discussing rather heatedly.She told him that sometimes it's important to do the wrong thing, to make mistakes,to find out what he feels.She said it's a matter of following your heart.Andrew, rather dumbfounded, sums up"So, in order to follow your heart,one must do the wrong thing?"It was difficult for him to grasp.Isn't it in one way or the other the same for all of us?
We live in a society whose norms and structures dictate that we rationalise everything before making decisions. Isn't this after all the logical thing to do?Why then, why do we so many times feel that by listening to our mind we are making a huge mistake?Maybe we are disregarding,like we have been taught,the single most important tool God gave us - our hearts, or intuition, as some would call it.Mind over heart,logic over intuition.
"Follow your heart"is not just a motto for the romantics.It is a rule we should endeavor to incorporate in our lives and yes, be ready to go against our common sense.When you listen to your heart, initially it will seem you are doing the wrong thing.The logical part of you will try to prevent you, with admonitions and rationalisations.So, out of fear of making a mistake, we stay put.It is a dilemma everybody faces.What to do then?
From what little experience I have gained from my life on this planet is this.You must do what is right for you.Not society,not your family or friends,you.You must learn to pay attention to those hunches, that little voice whispering inside, that lead you to decisions that are seemingly wrong,but they are the right ones for you,your soul.Every time I made a choice by disregarding my heart, it proved to be the biggest mistake ever.The irony is that at that very moment I knew it was wrong.I consciously chose to shut out the voice of my heart and clung to my logic, this system of rules ingrained so firmly n me.
I know, as a teacher I should be an advocate of rules.And I'm by no means saying that rules should be done away with.A structured society survives and flourishes when there is some point of reference as to what one can do or not.All I'm trying to point out is that when it comes to life -defining, personal decisions - decisions that will affect the course of your life, then the heart knows best.Ditch the rules.Listen to your heart.It will not lead you astray.It is your true north.
It is easy in solitude to live after our own;
but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd
keeps with perfect sweetness the independence
Ralph Waldo Emerson